Relationships

Episode 54 - The Great Unlearning

 

The horror-show hiccups that ended the last episode, reminding listeners about registering for Vote Forward, the impressive range of the lost dog posters for "Ponyo" in my neighborhood, recounting my brief ownership of a lost dog years ago, my girlfriend's need to see family, exploring the concept of compromise in relationships, the relative values of "fairness" and "happiness," therapy as a means of identifying who you live to please, the similarity between families and cults, and struggling to advocate for my own needs in my relationships.

Music by Disasterpeace.

Episode 37 - Fatal Flaw

 

Suffering the current heat-wave, ruminating about a recent mis-step with my girlfriend, wrestling with my occasional need to be alone, preferring to be isolated for most of my life, trying to tease out my natural tendencies from maladaptive behaviors, anxiety as a tool to identify areas of your life that need attention, the plot-twist of therapy, learning to trust my own judgment, reconciling myself to the reality of my life currently, reframing my fatal flaws as valid parts of my personality, needing my life to unfold the way it has, and nobody else being able to tell you what work you are here to do.

Music by Disasterpeace.

Episode 32 - Lucky Ducks

 

Beginning to absorb the enormity of our current crisis, my recent interest in reality/dating shows, the prospect of moving in with my girlfriend, the fear of asking for what you want or need, people-pleasing to your own detriment, the on-set of cabin fever as the shelter in place continues, having the rug of certainty pulled out from under you, recounting various crises I was luckily able to avoid, mistakenly referring to Orson Welles as George Orwell, and being the unobserved genius of our generation.

Music by Disasterpeace.

Episode 26 - Waiting for the Wanting

 

Discussed: Five minutes of COVID-19 coverage turns into thirty minutes, the cancellation of classes for the next few weeks, feeling powerless against the coming crisis, the inability for anyone to prepare for something like this, my girlfriend pushing for us to move in together, the tendency for guys to need to feel secure in their lives before settling down, wanting to feel more confident in my career choice, what it means to "want" something for yourself, and surrendering some of your life decisions to the judgment of people you trust.

Music by Disasterpeace.